People Pleasing, Hormones and Anxiety
Anxiety and ADHD aren’t just mental or emotional—they’re often deeply connected to what’s happening in the body and nervous system. One surprising link I’ve seen again and again in my work is between anxiety and people-pleasing.
Did you notice the title?
Were you aware that Anxiety and people-pleasing are connected?
At first, I wasn't aware. It took a great deal of personal work for me to realize that it was my people-pleasing tendencies and fear of conflict that were making me anxious. I would want to say 'no,' or 'back off,' or 'no thank you,' but the anxiety around the other person's pushback would make me choke on my words. This is exactly why I created the People Pleaser Intensive because this pattern is more than emotional. It’s also physiological and can deeply affect our nervous system and sense of self.
Sound familiar?
Are you tired of people pleasing? I know I was!
Especially once I figured out what was happening and that I'd been doing it for as long as I could remember. It was a reflex. It was unconscious. It was part of every, single relationship I was in, especially the one with myself. That’s why the People Pleaser Intensive doesn’t just scratch the surface; it addresses these patterns at the root, helping you reset your inner voice and boundaries in just a few focused hours.
People-pleasing was part of my Autoimmune diagnosis. It was what made me susceptible.
Many women with autoimmunity (literally against self) are suffering from the other disease of People-Pleasing.
As a woman, it's harder to speak up: it's a combination of nurture and nature. Unfortunately, when we don't speak up, it comes at a higher health cost. You are denying yourself. You are constantly making you insignificant and prioritizing others. Your body will self-protect against this eventually.
A fun twist on all of this is perimenopause and menopause:
The decrease in estrogen and progesterone is a normal aspect of the 40s and 50s. As a result, the giving in and knee-jerk reaction to caretaker will subside.
You will notice other emotions popping up, related to self-protection, personal growth, and increased boundaries.
This is normal. This is the next phase of your story. Be stern but kind, play broken record around boundaries, and be ready to create a new reality.
You are not going crazy, you are unleashed, it’s Mother Nature’s little gift to you, for all that carrying you’ve been doing!
This week I ask you to pay attention to that voice in your head that says "No, thank you". What would it be like to listen to it? You are worthy of self-care!
Check out this podcast episode that speaks to this phenomenon of health, anxiety and people pleasing! Listen Here
If this resonates with you, the People Pleaser Intensive was designed for exactly this kind of healing—so you can break the cycle and reset your boundaries with confidence.